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Moving on.... [Aug. 18th, 2007|05:45 pm]
Mark
[mood |restlessrestless]



Moved to Mobile, AL.... never thought I would live here but it is not so bad. Still near the beach, still warm weather, just a lot more traffic than previous places I have lived. Changes in life are difficult, even changes for the better...there have been a lot of changes in my life lately and I am excited about the present and future.

"IF NOTHING CHANGES, NOTHING CHANGES"
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Been a long while [Jul. 31st, 2007|11:19 pm]
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Life is all about choices…..cause and effect. When the root of a choice is selfish, problems arise. Selfishness has many disguises… anger, fear, passivity, sarcasm, controlling others, expecting others to know what you want, doing things you want to do hoping you will get “away” with it, being irresponsible, lying, cheating, stealing, etc. They are all rooted in selfishness. Choices are simple so long as we think, “are my motives selfish?”. Often times our motives are selfish and we think the decision is “hard”. It is not necessarily hard, it is just not what we want to do. I want to stay up late and watch TV. If I do that then I may not get up in time to make it to work, or I will be really tired when I do get to work. That is a simple example but even with the simple choices we pick the selfish one (watch TV) and then pay the consequences the next morning. So, if we have difficulty with simple choices and choose the selfish choice then of course we are going to have difficulty with the major life choices. One key factor in decision making is to not make the decision alone! Praying works, talking to others works (others who are positive/healthy people). Going to the person that you know will encourage the unhealthy choice is also self seeking. Go to the person(s) who will lead you in the right direction. Of course, the more healthy choices you make in life, the greater chance that you will know people that will lead you in a positive direction. Positive/healthy people attract positive/healthy people. Yes, we are all dysfunctional in some way. But, many keep their dysfunction to a minimum. Others flaunt their dysfunction and attract similar people. Ever notice who has the most “drama’ in their life? It is usually not people that generally make good choices in life. Aren’t most of our problems of our own making? Many blame everyone else for their problems but you had something to do with it if you take a step back (ex. You picked your partner, you were not just sitting there “being good”, etc). Life is difficult. Try to keep selfishness to a minimum, hang around positive people, do positive things (even when you don’t want to), and don’t stress the little things.
KNOWING ALL OF THIS........ LIFE IS STILL A STRUGGLE AT TIMES AND CHOICES ARE DIFFICULT
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(no subject) [Oct. 6th, 2006|04:27 pm]
Mark
[mood |peacefulpeaceful]

Life grows brighter when you come to understand. Live with a love and thankfulness for life, and your understanding of it will become more valuable.
Come to understand that the other people in your world have perspectives, purposes and priorities that are different than yours. It will save you from a lot of needless frustration and anger.

Come to understand that loss is a part of life. And you always have every reason and ability to heal.

Come to understand that giving and receiving are always inseparable. The level of abundance you experience is equal to the value and goodness flowing out from you.

Come to understand that sometimes the most powerful response is patience. There are many battles you do not really need to fight.

Come to understand that whatever may have been or wherever you may find yourself, you always have a choice. Choose to live each moment with positive purpose, and you will truly come to understand.
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(no subject) [Oct. 4th, 2006|08:27 am]
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[mood |hopefulhopeful]

I was a little irritable initially but took a few deep breaths and said "today WILL be a good day" to myself a few times, stopped thinking about the thing that I was worried about, and I am feeling better now. I also read this and to me it was odd how it went along with something I was already doing (it will make sense when you read it):

To quickly get beyond self-defeating thoughts, get yourself busy with empowering behavior. When you can't think your way out of a despairing mindset, start acting your way out.
One positive action can neutralize several hours worth of negative feelings. Get your body moving and doing something useful, and your mind will quickly follow along.
If you don't feel like helping yourself, then find someone else for whom you can do something positive and useful. Even a gesture as easy and seemingly insignificant as a genuine smile can make a big difference.
When you want to start feeling more positive, then act like it. Stand up straight, hold your head high, walk confidently forward, and you can literally feel the difference it makes.
You may not believe your own thoughts, yet you cannot help but believe your own actions. When you take positive action, your whole being takes notice.
Get up, get going, and act the way you would like to feel. And suddenly, that's exactly the way you'll be.
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Hope you have a great day!
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Monday, monday, monday... [Oct. 2nd, 2006|03:11 pm]
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[mood |okayokay]

I just titled it Monday for the hell of it. To me, Monday is never any worse or better than any other day. The new quarter started at the college I teach at, so I got a batch of new students. As far as other aspects in my life...it could be better, it could also be a lot worse!
I need to focus on the positive aspects of my life and do the best I can to cope with the negative in healthy ways (chipping away at one problem at a time). Coping with problems in life in negative ways has been a problem of mine. An example would be..."I owe 'x' amount of money and it is not going to get paid so why not spend more money on something else instead?!" I must not react to negative with more negative because it only makes things that much worse!
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Look for the positive in today [Sep. 26th, 2006|09:14 am]
Mark
[mood |grumpygrumpy]

Choose today to face the challenges, and you'll come away stronger. Decide that
you will find a way to do what you know must be done, and the value you create
will endure long after this day is over.

Rediscover the sense of real, honest and irreplaceable fulfillment that comes
from moving in the direction you know is right. Experience the satisfaction of
knowing that you are truly making a positive difference.

Plant seeds of hope and encouragement with those you encounter. Keep your heart
filled with gratitude for the beauty and the possibilities that flow through
your world at all times.

Enjoy the reality of being alive and aware at this moment in this place. Look
for the positive in every situation and you will find it.

This day is your opportunity to put your dreams, your values, your hopes and
goals and desires into action. This day is your opportunity to allow the best
that is inside you to flow out into the world.

Jump enthusiastically into this day and live it as if everything you become
depends on the path you choose to follow. For on this day, it does.
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Let go! [Sep. 20th, 2006|06:24 pm]
Mark
[mood |frustratedfrustrated]

Spontaneity may frighten some of us. We may be afraid of the loss
of control involved with spontaneity. We may still be operating under
the codependent rules that prohibit spontaneity: be good; be right;
be perfect; be strong; don't have fun; and always be in control.


We may associate spontaneity with acting out in an addictive,
compulsive, self destructive, or irresponsible manner.

That's not what we're talking about in recovery. Positive
spontaneity involves freely expressing who we are - in a way that is
fun, healthy, doesn't hurt us, and doesn't infringe on the right of
others.

We learn to be spontaneous and free as we grow in self-awareness
and self esteem. Spontaneity emerges as our confidence and trust in
ourselves increase, and we become more secure in our ability to
maintain healthy boundaries.

Being spontaneous is connected to our ability to play and achieve
intimacy. For all those desirable acts, we need to be able to let go
of our need to control others and ourselves and fully and freely
enter into the present moment.

Let go of your tight rein on yourself. So what if you make a
mistake? So what if you're wrong? Relish your imperfections. Let
yourself be a little needy, a little vulnerable. Take a risk!

We can be spontaneous without hurting ourselves, or others. In
fact, everyone will benefit by our spontaneity.

Today, I will throw out the rulebook and enjoy being who I am. I
will have some fun with the gift of life, others, and myself.
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Happy Tuesday! [Sep. 19th, 2006|12:39 pm]
Mark
[mood |blahblah]

I am also trying to convince myself that it is a "happy Tuesday". Life is just that. We are dealt cards and it is how we play them that makes all the difference. Sometimes I make rash decisions which later place me in uncomfortable situations. Sometimes I make good decisions which later place me in comfortable situations. Knowing what to do is one thing, actually doing it is another. I must remember that I have no control over other people (their thoughts, actions, emotions). I do have control over my own self and my feelings are my choice (although others can make it difficult at times).
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Hope [Sep. 14th, 2006|01:15 pm]
Mark
Hope is a good breakfast,
but it is a bad supper.
-- Francis Bacon
We must live WITH hope, yet we cannot live BY hope. It is fine to hope for the best. That, however, is not enough. We cannot merely hope, we must take action.

It is sad how many things are tolerated in the hope that they will improve. Hoping for the best won't do anything. Working and taking action, with hope in your heart, will bring about results. That's a powerful combination. Hope works in your favor only as long as it is accompanied by action and commitment.

Hope cannot replace action. Do what needs to be done, hope or no hope. Hope for the best, and do everything in your power to make it happen. Yes, there is hope. Things will get better -- when you make them better.

Start each day with hope, and then get busy working. Let your hope inspire you, rather than console you. Hope for the best, and then do whatever it takes. Hope depends on you.
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(no subject) [Sep. 13th, 2006|07:59 am]
Mark
You Belong in Barcelona

When it comes to Europe, you don't want to decide between culture and fun. You want art by day and a big party by night.
Barcelona is ideal for you. You can check out some Picasso, eat some tapas, take a siesta, and then dance all night!
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